A Spice of Life w/ Suga: Space and Why Couples Need It

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I love being in a relationship. I think it’s one of the great things about life, having someone to go through it with you. I love the beauty of having someone that knows you inside and out and yet still wants to be with you. Whether you are up or down, there is someone who is right there with you. There are so many things that help make relationships what they are. One thing that is important in a good relationship is space. Continue reading

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A Spice of Life w/ Suga: Romance With A Baby

babyloveI love having a kid. I don’t think there’s anything better but I’d be lying if I didn’t say that having a kid causes you to have to change your relationships in some kind of way. I don’t that that’s anymore truer than when you’re in a relationship. Continue reading

A Spice of Life w/ Suga: Q & A Session 19

cousinsQ: Dear Suga,

I used to be really close to one of my cousins. I feel like now because we have different interests she has completely stopped dealing with me and it’s really hurtful. We didn’t have a falling out or anything, just gradually I stopped hearing from her and now not at all. I don’t know what to do about it. I know sometimes friendships end because of different interests but I didn’t think it would with family. What do I do?

Sincerely,

Missing my Fam

 

A: Dear Missing my Fam,

I feel your pain. I’ve went through this myself and I’m going to give you the advice I should have taken. Talk to them. The best way to resolve anything is to communicate. Your cousin may not have even noticed that this is going on. He/She may be too into what they’re doing now to have even realized that they’re alienating you. It’s wrong and you don’t deserve it especially if things hadn’t gone sour between you too. Some people are honestly too wrapped up in themselves to notice that things have changed. They might be waiting on you to call, you just never know. When you talk to your cousin try to set up some time to hang out. If they’re down then things are all good. If they make excuses then it very well could mean the end of your friendship. Not all cousins stay friends. Families go through stages. I’m not close to all the cousins I grew up with, it happens. You’ll miss it but it’s okay because you are still family and you can very well become close again.

coworkQ: Dear Suga,

I have a coworker that I can’t stand! She is a huge kiss-ass and extremely two-faced. Her presence irks me and I don’t know how much longer I can control my feelings and I’m not the only who feels this way I just think it’s bothering me more. I don’t know what to do.

Sincerely,

Irritated at Work

 

A: Dear Irritated at Work,

It sucks that you’re not happy at your job. To be honest though, there will always be someone at any job you have that you could do without. No one I know likes everyone at their job. We’re just not that fortunate. What I would advise you to do is to stay away from her as much as you can. I know that’s hard to do at work but only deal with her when it’s a work-related situation. Let her know that unless it’s work-related that you shouldn’t speak to her.  She has to respect that. Now with her being a kiss-ass she may very well go and tell your boss. If that does happen, I would tell your supervisor that you don’t feel that speaking to her beyond work-related issues is good for either of you. Your boss will most likely understand because I’m sure they don’t like everyone they work with. Focus on doing your best at work; don’t let anyone mess up your money!

A Spice of Life w/ Suga – The Balancing Act: Juggling Motherhood and Work

balanceI always wondered how women could work and be awesome mothers. I’ve seen many do it but I never thought that I would have to try to balance it all. Continue reading

The Amador Memoirs: Workman’s Comp(rehension)

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There is a common misconception that for one to be a hard worker one must stay with one company for set amount of years and be willing to go above and beyond upon their request or something of that sort. I like many of those in today’s workforce are perceived as unemployable, or a high risk employee, for the way our work history pans out.Off the top of my head I can say that I have worked for about 20 employers (give or take) since my first official job at the Hilton downtown Milwaukee. Continue reading

Helena Gudell’s Wonderland: A Miscarriage of Justice

Kendrick JohnsonAs a parent we do all we can to protect our kids from the evils in the world. We shield their young eyes from the crimes on TV, cover their ears when the new is on, and we censor what cartoons and movies they watch all in an attempt to keep their innocence within them just a little bit longer. But when we send them to school we get to breathe a little because they’re in the hands of professionals. That wasn’t the case January 10, 2013 when Kendrick Johnson went to yet another day at Lowndes High School. His body was found a day later rolled up in a gym mat. Continue reading