A Letter To The Departed

Memorial Pool

WTC Memorial Pool

Typically I leave the relationship and family stuff up to Suga to write but this week marks a major milestone in my life and I don’t quite know how I feel about it. I figured I would share with you all since I know we all deal with loss of life differently. On September 11, 2001 I lost a friend of mine in the attacks on the World Trade Center. Then a few years later I lost my grandmother on September 11, 2004. This marks 10 years that I have been trying to deal with a loss that is so profound there are no words.  Continue reading

HELENA GUDELL’S WONDERLAND: Ferguson Editorial

So I have finally decided to open my mouth to the situation going on in Ferguson, Missouri. Mow lets get down to the nitty gritty… first and foremost I am going to say this, this article is my opinion based on evidence presented so far and does not reflect the opinion of anyone else at BCE. If you cannot respect my opinion as I respect yours on this highly controversial topic then DO NOT COMMENT! Continue reading

Helena Gudell’s WONDERLAND: Stupid is as Stupid Does

I was always told “an idle mind is the Devil’s playground” when I was growing up. That being said I was always given a book or a sketch pad or something to keep me busy. If I wasn’t outside playing I was doing something constructive. I was creating something or reading a book. Now it seems kids lack an imagination. I know that people will blame it on technology and say that we’re too busy with social networking and video games to be creative but in fact that isn’t the point. When we were growing up we had chat rooms. we had computers, we had an ever evolving game console. The difference was we had parents who set limits. Now kids are given everything in the world they want and they have no creativity. So they do stupid shit to try and make it big on social media or YouTube.  Continue reading

A Spice of Life w/ Suga: Cherishing People

thegiftThis is a subject that would be good for all of is to learn. The reason for this article is very personal but I know that everyone can relate. This article is dedicated to my cousin Kemi, whom we’ve recently lost.

We all know that we’re going to die and so will the people around us. We don’t know if they’ll go before us or after, just that at some point it happens. Even though we know this we still are shocked by it. No matter whom it happens to, when, or the matter in which it happens. You never get used to death. No matter how many funerals we attend it is never something that we say, “It just happens.” Continue reading

Excessive Force

All around Facebook everyone has been posting for the past two weeks or so about the death of Eric Garner. If you don’t know what I am talking about I am referring to the death of the man in NY on Staten Island who died while being arrested by police.  Continue reading

To Accept or Not: Friend Requests from Family on Facebook

Now if you’re like me, you love Facebook. It’s fun to see what’s going on in everyone’s lives. We love it for keeping in touch with people we are not able to regularly see, like relatives. While that can be fun, there are times when you really have to consider adding a relative or not. Continue reading

Spice of Life w/Suga Q&A Session 15

Dear Suga,

My daughter is having trouble getting financial support for her daughter from her daughter’s father who also happens to be my daughter’s current boyfriend. I’m not sure why she stays with him. It’s very frustrating and I’ve basically had to pick up his slack which is hard on me. What should I advise her to do?

Sincerely,

Stressed Grandma

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