A Spice of Life w/ Suga: Q & A Session 19

cousinsQ: Dear Suga,

I used to be really close to one of my cousins. I feel like now because we have different interests she has completely stopped dealing with me and it’s really hurtful. We didn’t have a falling out or anything, just gradually I stopped hearing from her and now not at all. I don’t know what to do about it. I know sometimes friendships end because of different interests but I didn’t think it would with family. What do I do?

Sincerely,

Missing my Fam

 

A: Dear Missing my Fam,

I feel your pain. I’ve went through this myself and I’m going to give you the advice I should have taken. Talk to them. The best way to resolve anything is to communicate. Your cousin may not have even noticed that this is going on. He/She may be too into what they’re doing now to have even realized that they’re alienating you. It’s wrong and you don’t deserve it especially if things hadn’t gone sour between you too. Some people are honestly too wrapped up in themselves to notice that things have changed. They might be waiting on you to call, you just never know. When you talk to your cousin try to set up some time to hang out. If they’re down then things are all good. If they make excuses then it very well could mean the end of your friendship. Not all cousins stay friends. Families go through stages. I’m not close to all the cousins I grew up with, it happens. You’ll miss it but it’s okay because you are still family and you can very well become close again.

coworkQ: Dear Suga,

I have a coworker that I can’t stand! She is a huge kiss-ass and extremely two-faced. Her presence irks me and I don’t know how much longer I can control my feelings and I’m not the only who feels this way I just think it’s bothering me more. I don’t know what to do.

Sincerely,

Irritated at Work

 

A: Dear Irritated at Work,

It sucks that you’re not happy at your job. To be honest though, there will always be someone at any job you have that you could do without. No one I know likes everyone at their job. We’re just not that fortunate. What I would advise you to do is to stay away from her as much as you can. I know that’s hard to do at work but only deal with her when it’s a work-related situation. Let her know that unless it’s work-related that you shouldn’t speak to her.  She has to respect that. Now with her being a kiss-ass she may very well go and tell your boss. If that does happen, I would tell your supervisor that you don’t feel that speaking to her beyond work-related issues is good for either of you. Your boss will most likely understand because I’m sure they don’t like everyone they work with. Focus on doing your best at work; don’t let anyone mess up your money!

Helena Gudell’s Wonderland: A Miscarriage of Justice

Kendrick JohnsonAs a parent we do all we can to protect our kids from the evils in the world. We shield their young eyes from the crimes on TV, cover their ears when the new is on, and we censor what cartoons and movies they watch all in an attempt to keep their innocence within them just a little bit longer. But when we send them to school we get to breathe a little because they’re in the hands of professionals. That wasn’t the case January 10, 2013 when Kendrick Johnson went to yet another day at Lowndes High School. His body was found a day later rolled up in a gym mat. Continue reading

A Spice of Life w/ Suga: Adventures With A Newborn

babyboyAdventures With A Newborn

Last I talked about motherhood with you all I was 4 months pregnant. Well I am happy to announce that on Saturday, October 18, 2014 at 9:22am I gave birth to a baby boy who I named Justin Alexander Weightman.  I won’t bore you with the horror of childbirth but I will tell you how motherhood has been thus far. Continue reading

A Letter To The Departed

Memorial Pool

WTC Memorial Pool

Typically I leave the relationship and family stuff up to Suga to write but this week marks a major milestone in my life and I don’t quite know how I feel about it. I figured I would share with you all since I know we all deal with loss of life differently. On September 11, 2001 I lost a friend of mine in the attacks on the World Trade Center. Then a few years later I lost my grandmother on September 11, 2004. This marks 10 years that I have been trying to deal with a loss that is so profound there are no words.  Continue reading

To Accept or Not: Friend Requests from Family on Facebook

Now if you’re like me, you love Facebook. It’s fun to see what’s going on in everyone’s lives. We love it for keeping in touch with people we are not able to regularly see, like relatives. While that can be fun, there are times when you really have to consider adding a relative or not. Continue reading

Spice of Life w/Suga Q&A Session 13

Dear Suga,

I am a single woman living on my own. My best friend is being evicted from her apartment and needs somewhere to stay. She wants to come with her 2 small children. I have no children but of course I wouldn’t invite her and not the children. The only problem is she wants her man to come as well. I’m not okay with that in the least. The main reason is because she works and he doesn’t.  Am I wrong?

Sincerely,

Trying to Be a Good Friend

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