A Letter To The Departed

Memorial Pool

WTC Memorial Pool

Typically I leave the relationship and family stuff up to Suga to write but this week marks a major milestone in my life and I don’t quite know how I feel about it. I figured I would share with you all since I know we all deal with loss of life differently. On September 11, 2001 I lost a friend of mine in the attacks on the World Trade Center. Then a few years later I lost my grandmother on September 11, 2004. This marks 10 years that I have been trying to deal with a loss that is so profound there are no words.  Continue reading

To Accept or Not: Friend Requests from Family on Facebook

Now if you’re like me, you love Facebook. It’s fun to see what’s going on in everyone’s lives. We love it for keeping in touch with people we are not able to regularly see, like relatives. While that can be fun, there are times when you really have to consider adding a relative or not. Continue reading

Spice of Life w/Suga Q&A Session 15

Dear Suga,

My daughter is having trouble getting financial support for her daughter from her daughter’s father who also happens to be my daughter’s current boyfriend. I’m not sure why she stays with him. It’s very frustrating and I’ve basically had to pick up his slack which is hard on me. What should I advise her to do?

Sincerely,

Stressed Grandma

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Spice of Life w/Suga Q&A Session 14

Dear Suga,
I love my boyfriend but I’m starting to notice that he drinks an awful lot. From morning til night he’s drinking. I even discovered that he drinks at work as well. I’m afraid that he has a real problem. What should I do?
Sincerely,
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Spice of Life w/Suga Q&A Session 13

Dear Suga,

I am a single woman living on my own. My best friend is being evicted from her apartment and needs somewhere to stay. She wants to come with her 2 small children. I have no children but of course I wouldn’t invite her and not the children. The only problem is she wants her man to come as well. I’m not okay with that in the least. The main reason is because she works and he doesn’t.  Am I wrong?

Sincerely,

Trying to Be a Good Friend

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Despicable Me

As a parent I am having trouble reading the research for this article. And even more trouble writing it. Children are frustrating. That is the one thing I pass on to any new mom. Patience is something you have to have when you’re a parent, especially the parent of a child who can’t talk to communicate their needs. I can’t say that as they get older it gets any easier because when they do learn to communicate they tend to have their own little personality which can have different tones and attitudes. But no matter what my kids have dished out at me I have never wished them dead or tried to kill them.  Continue reading

Spice of Life w/ Suga: Cheating

The title says it all! Now this is an article that probably should’ve been written months ago but it’s such a huge subject that I decided to wait. But lately, I’ve heard about so many people getting cheated on that it seems that now is the time to talk about it. This is all my opinion about it and what I’ve learned from others. Feel free to agree or disagree! Continue reading